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Fallow Ground

A journey through grief, growth, and healing, explored through the lens of gardening metaphors and personal reflection

When you experience a traumatic loss like the one we did, everyone tells you to expect people to say...

I’m thinking about “parking spot” Christianity. What I mean by this is people who think that God has answered...

I couldn’t sleep on Christmas Eve and I spent the night planning an imaginary pottery studio in the basement...

Periodic Reflections on Grief and Loss Holy Sonnets: Death, be not proudBY JOHN DONNEDeath, be not proud, though some...

At a neighborhood happy hour last night, pleasantly buzzed and comfortable in my own skin for once (it...

This is my husband, wearing my son’s Halloween costume, raising a frenzy on the busy street in front...

For almost five years, I felt stuck. Like I was waiting at a train station, or maybe an airport. My waiting lasted from June...

Moving is never fun. But I’m an expert now. In 2013, I lived through...

Penned on Nov 25, the morning after our last Sunday at Harvest City Church (HCC) The din has been...

Professional Development Day strikes fear into many the heart of a Science World employee. It brings screaming toddlers plus...

This post was first published at Sheloves Magazine. Yes, I admit it. I have never been faithful to one...

What do you do when you set goals, make plans, and then get side-swiped by life? When your...

Few things are as satisfying as sharpening a handful of pencils, then holding up the little tools to contemplate...

I’m a nerdy Asian book-worm. My idea of cycling involves a fixie, no helmet and tortoise-rim glasses. Gears and...

In the middle of the week, my 9-year-old son Evan has a massive temper tantrum just before dinner. He...

It’s October and the Pacific Northwest’s notorious depressing grey clouds and rainy deluges are just peeking over the horizon....

I am from oval oak table from jello pudding cakes and coca-cola I am from white bungalow on brown...

I now exercise while I do housework. It came with the onslaught of Vancouver’s usual November downpours. I got...

There’s been a lot of media buzz in the past decade about “extended adolescence” or “emerging adulthood”. It’s not really...